How to Retain Self Esteem During Unemployment

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Self esteem elevation is very critical factor leading to employment. It is a natural tendency to be low on self esteem during unemployment. Add to this are the discouraging remarks of the friends and relatives. Even well meaning people with their pity and sympathy hit a severe blow on your self esteem. Even false praise will do no good. We are mature enough to distinguish between true and false and it hurts.

Steps

Action orientation. Action is necessary for high self-esteem to take hold and blossom. If you don’t do anything, you can not feel very good about yourself. You know you are still good at certain tasks. Yes as good as you were, when employed. Much better than others who are still employed employed. Your temporary unemployment is for reasons not connected to your attributes or lack of it. Think about your positive contribution and the turnaround it brought in the organizations. Read, re-read, the testimonials and the appreciation letters, draw, re-draw your past career graph, reflect on your professional and monetary growth.
Believe in your ability to be a catalyst for positive change. You will see the action habit as critical and will focus on always being aware of your state of action/inaction.
Take on an all conquering attitude. Just like a battering ram that eventually destroys a gate that blocks the way, these new beliefs will hammer away at your old, established ones. And just like that battering ram that with persistence, will knock the gate down, and will help to replace your weak thoughts and beliefs with new affirming, powerful ones.
Adopt and embrace the image of a person who is peaceful, calm collected, confident and in control. Be at peace with your role in the world, to be accepting of the things you can’t change. And in embracing these habitual emotions, the stress and craziness that may swirl around you every day simply won’t affect you like it currently does.
Get involved in unemployed unions or organisations.

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Your intrinsic worth is still intact, though your monetary may have temporarily declined.

Warnings

Self esteem elevation is not a substitute for attributes required for the employment. It would only lead to better utilization of them.
Elevated self esteem should not lead to overconfidence or arrogance. On the contrary it should make you more humble and help the people in need to boost their esteem levels.

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How to Overcome Low Self Esteem

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How do you feel inside every time you step out of the house? if its a bright, cheery day you see outside your door, then go on and enjoy that sunshine. But if you are already complaining about the weather, then you know you need to maybe take a small peek into yourself. What does the weather have to do with self esteem? Well, nothing! But the way you 'feel' about the things around you, and that includes the weather, would say a lot about how you feel about yourself. They say the material world is merely a reflection of how you feel inside. So if you can try to change the picture inside, it will be reflected on the outside too, quite naturally. Here are 5 simple tips to shed some light and brighten up your precious self:

Steps

Catching the negative critic in you: People are often harsh on themselves. And that is not really necessary most of the time. Every time some event on the outside happens, and you begin to think about yourself as a loser, stop that thought right there and catch it. Yes, catch that merciless critic inside you and stop him right there. Failures will cease to make you feel bad about yourself when you realise that they are only opportunities and not mighty hardships that God is trying to throw on you.
Kick the harsh critic out and bring in a new one: After becoming an expert in catching the critic (and you will become one if you try for a few days), throw him out of your system and bring in a new, more sensible guy. Even if you don't understand how to do this, it's still fine. Just understand that the word 'critic' only connotes your own mind that is used to thinking and feeling bad all the time. To bring in the new guy means to simply start thinking good thoughts about yourself. Say for example, if after a failure at a competition, or even a business deal, you begin to think of yourself as a loser, just stop right there on your tracks, catch that thought, refuse to believe in it and replace it with an effective positive thought.
Stop comparing: Though it's been said a million times already, it still holds true that every single individual on this planet is unique. What matters is not whether you are as good as the rest of the world, but whether you are good at being you. People have different lives. And they all have their successes and failures. Understand that we are all in this together.
Respect yourself a lot. Love yourself more: Because if you don't respect yourself, then how can you expect others to respect you? Accept yourself, however you are at this moment, and that means physically and mentally. Physically, some of us are more endowed with good looks than others. Some of us have sharper minds than our peers, and that's perfectly fine. Whoever you are and however you are, there will always be something in you that nobody, absolutely nobody else will have. All you have to do is to find that out and proceed to work on improving it.
No one but you can make you feel bad: If somebody were to throw garbage on you, would you just stand there and let it fall on your head and mess your hair or would you simply move aside and let it pass? The choice is in your hands. You cannot stop people from telling you all the things they do, but you can choose to not accept it all and feel bad. Be choosy and picky when it comes to advice, including this one. Ask yourself if it makes sense and is helping you and then take it. If it's not helping you, then discard it. Be with genuine, positive people who will help you feel good about yourself as a person in this world. Step outside that door and bring in the sunshine. You'll do just fine!
Keep a journal. Write something good about yourself everyday. Whenever you feel down and low in self-esteem, open up your journal to encourage yourself once again. For two times a day, once before bed and once after you've woken up, face the mirror and say three good things about yourself. If you cannot think of anything to say, tell yourself you're born a winner because everybody is.

Tips

Do one good thing to someone or something every day without expecting anything in return. It could be anything, from feeding a stray dog to helping a lost stranger with directions. The feeling of having been helpful for another being can be uplifting.
Walk closer to nature. The rich diversity in the natural world often helps us understand much more than we can ever expect to understand from any great books.
Smile a lot. Laugh more. Find reasons to smile more often. And laugh as much as you can.
Wake up every day with a beautiful thought. Never mind if you are groggy and don't fee; it... Get out of the bed holding a pleasant thought.

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